Strong women - a thought atter a shopping trip

By my husband's definition, a strong woman is a woman who is not insecure.

I am still looking for a definition of a strong woman. I like to think that I am a strong woman. But some people may not agree with me. For example, everything I do, I always ask my husband first. To some people, it's a weak sign. A strong woman should be able to do anything she wants. I don't disagree with their opinion. But then it makes me think and think ....

Last Friday, I went shopping. I knew I didn't need more clothes any more and I haven't done my budget for the month. But yet, I still decided to buy some items that I liked but didn't need. A little worry ran through my mind. A thought of a strong woman came up in my debate to myself.

Yes, for some people, I should be able to buy anything I want because I do make money and because I don't have to ask permission from my husband. Am I a weak person when I need to have permission when I want to do anything?

I finally found an answer for myself. It's my total respect to ask permission or seek for agreement from my husband before I do anything. Because we are a team now. I am not an individual any more. Everything I do now does affect the team. Any money I spend now does affect the same money pool. Then why is it wrong to ask before I do or spend money? Furthermore, I know I am a strong person so I don't have to scream out that "I am a strong woman" through every action. A rock is a rock. It does not need to keep defining itself through its actions. It can just lay there and people have to acknowledge it's a rock. That's how I feel about myself. I am completely content to do something that other strong women would never approve.

While in that thought, I was thinking of my husband. I was thinking of the anime "Naruto". Naruto has to reach a certain level before he can summon the king frog. My husband must have at a certain level to summon this strong woman :).

Any way, I found this quote and like it:

"No book has yet been written in praise of a woman who let her husband and children starve or suffer while she invented even the most useful things, or wrote books, or expressed herself in art, or evolved philosophic systems." by Anna Garlin Spencer

And I found the new definitions of BITCH and like them too


b- babe
i - in
t - total
c - control of
h - herself

b- beautiful
i - intelligent
t - talented
c - charming
h - hell of a woman

b- beautiful
i - individual
t - that
c - can
h - handle anything
(http://www.heroikamuljadi.com/blog/2005/04/definition-of-strong-woman_111246081998925577.html)